What remission from my ED looks like

ruthiend:

1.)    Not acting on eating disorder thoughts.

2.)    Massively reduced day to day eating disorder thoughts.

3.)    Body acceptance/neutrality. A refusal to actively change how my body looks. A refusal to bow to social and cultural pressure to idolise ‘slim, fit and toned’. 

4.)    No food rules other than eat enough food.

5.)    Intuitive eating and following my hunger cues.

6.)    Counting calories at the end of the day on days when I feel stressed, upset, or anxious, to make sure I don’t relapse by accident.

7.)    Monitoring my physical activity to ensure I don’t relapse.

8.)    Accepting my life with a chronic mental illness. However, it doesn’t have to be a horrible part of my life, just a quiet bleep in the background.

9.)    Getting right back on track whenever I feel I may have slipped.  Reflecting on why it happened, and learning lessons from the experience.

10.)  Admitting my vulnerability and fragility. Being open about who I am. Being honest. Talking to people about my issues.

11.)  Valuing myself on being a good, kind person.

12.)  Learning alternative coping mechanisms. Practicing self care. Being kind to myself, above all. 

If your recovery from a restrictive eating disorder involves a restrictive diet and a strict exercise routine, then I’d really strongly advise you to reconsider and reevaluate. Really.

What’s stopping you from letting it go? What are you scared of?

Things to remember when you want to say “no,” assert yourself, and ask for what you want

thelesbianborderline:

1. If I say “no” to someone and they get angry, this does not mean I should have said “yes.”
2. Saying “no” does not make me selfish.
3. Although I want to please the people I care about, I do not have to please them all the time.
4. It is okay to want or need something from someone else. 
5. My wants and needs are just as important as those of anyone else.
6. I have the right to assert myself, even if I may inconvenience others.